{"id":445,"date":"2024-12-07T00:28:26","date_gmt":"2024-12-07T00:28:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/destinydetective.com\/?p=445"},"modified":"2024-12-07T00:28:26","modified_gmt":"2024-12-07T00:28:26","slug":"past-life-haircut-current-life-trauma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/destinydetective.com\/?p=445","title":{"rendered":"Past Life Haircut – Current Life Trauma"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cHOLD STILL, Pat! I have to try and make you look good for our family photos!\u201d my mom screamed at me, scissors in one hand and Scotch Tape in the other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I squirmed as she ripped the tape off my forehead, positioned a bowl on my head, and went to work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Five minutes later, I had a bowl cut with bangs so short they didn\u2019t even touch my eyebrows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wasn\u2019t allowed to protest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNo more bangs,\u201d she finally declared. \u201cI don\u2019t have time for this nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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For years after the Scotch Tape incident, my only allowed hairstyle was a simple barrette holding the top part of my hair back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She even washed my hair herself until I was in the 7th grade. When I finally revolted and washed my own hair, I unintentionally flooded the bathroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I won the right to wash my own hair, but how I wore it\u2014and what I wore\u2014remained tightly under her control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Using babysitting money I saved up, I bought a pair of bell-bottom jeans that were the<\/em> height of fashion in the ’60s. For a week, I wore those jeans every chance I got outside of school … gawd and my mother forbid such attire in a public setting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then one day, she sweetly announced, \u201cOh honey, I\u2019m so sorry\u2014I accidentally bleached your jeans.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at 13, I knew better. My mom only used bleach on whites. It wasn\u2019t an accident; it was a power move. And it worked\u2014for a while.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Fast forward decades later, I found out about one of my past lives. I was an illegitimate Native American child in the late 1800s Pacific Northwest, sent to a federal boarding school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There, I was beaten and raped for holding on to my culture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They hacked off my long, beautiful braids into an ugly bob and forced me to wear white people\u2019s clothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It stripped me of my identity, leaving deep scars of fear and shame.<\/p>\n\n\n

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When I connected the dots, it all clicked. My soul had planned the fights with my mom\u2014not to torture me, but to heal me. She was supposed to make me angry, so I would reclaim my power and individuality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Scotch Tape, the bleach, the battles\u2014they weren\u2019t about her controlling me. They were about me learning to stand up for myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My purpose is to live my own life\u2014and teach others how to do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Byron Katie<\/p>\n\n\n

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The timing of your struggles and opportunities is no accident. It\u2019s all part of your soul\u2019s plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Clues to the main struggle you came here to heal is in your month of birth.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How you handle and heal your struggles\u2014and how long you let them drag you down\u2014is up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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